Christian Dating and Tips for a Healthy Relationship

Christian Dating Tips

As Christians, we are called to a standard of living higher than when we walked in our fleshly desires. The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20: “You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body” (NIV). These Christian dating tips are not comprehensive but insightful on what our relationship with God and our special part should look like.

Whether we are young or old, the battle rages on in our flesh to remain pure and holy while we are dating. We MUST honor God with our bodies and we also should honor the person we are dating.

The good news is that we have help through the Holy Spirit who guides us and we know that Jesus has overcome the world! We don’t have to face the battle alone.

Below, you will find some practical dating tips that you can apply while dating. Some of these dating tips may seem a bit rigid, but when followed you’ll find out that you’ll end up having a beautiful relationship and have no regrets.

We don’t want to spend a great deal of time on some of the more obvious dating tips, but we thought these should be mentioned nonetheless. The first six items are really basic and somewhat hilarious, but when it comes to dating, some guys self-destruct before leaving home. So here are some dating tips (mainly for the guys) that you should take serious whether you are going out with a lady or just going out with your family.

Dress nicely – No brainer!

Comb your hair – No brainer!

Brush your teeth – No brainer!

Wear a deodorant – No brainer!

If you are driving, clean up your vehicle inside and out.

And always take along your sense of humor.

We have discovered these dating tips through our own relationships, by watching the triumphs and mistakes of others, and by simply taking a common sense approach to relationships and purity. We hope these dating tips help you in your desire to honor God and your date while you are building a wonderful relationship.

Many of us need to lose a few pounds to look and feel our best. Weight gain can have a very negative affect on self-esteem and confidence when it comes to dating.

Here are a few dating tips to grow a strong relationship!

1. Pray.
2. Talk a lot.
3. Be friends first.
4. Pray in groups.
5. Avoid kisses.
6. Engage other couples.

– Pray 

Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honor Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper frame of mind for your date.

– Talk a lot 

There’s no better way to get to know someone other than talking to them about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if it is a relationship that you should pursue.

– Let’s be friends! 

This is an important dating tip to remember. Don’t forget that until you are married, the person you are dating could be someone else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain “just friends”, the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point.

It’s great being married to your best friend!

– Pray in groups

What in the world does this mean? It sounds like the oddest of all these Christian dating tips. What we’re suggesting is that you don’t pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is very important in any relationship, so please don’t misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about, you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.

The goal in any Christian relationship is to honor God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if they are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.

– Choose not to kiss

Can dating Christians kiss each other? Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip, then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It’s better not to kiss at all until your wedding day! Before you laugh and swipe to another page thinking that we are probably insane, consider these points on kissing.

A kiss begins to sexually stimulate a man and woman instantly. If you aren’t kissing then you won’t become tempted to take things to a more intimate level. You’ll be preserving yourself and the purity of your date. If a Christian man is kissing his date and he gets an erection (often just the possibility of a kiss can do this), is God or his date being honored?

Is it healthy for him to get sexually aroused time after time without sexual release? When men become sexually aroused, a large amount of blood flows to their genitals. If ejaculation does not occur; the build up of blood can become painful. That just can’t be a good thing for anyone! Ouch!

A kiss will surely break down your barriers and leave you in a position that could ultimately devastate your relationship with your date and affect your walk with God. Self-control seems to be the better option. Just imagine how magical your first kiss will be if it is saved for your wedding day!

– Include another couple 

You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dates to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you’ll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.

Always treat each other with respect. If you respect the person you are with, then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself “what would Jesus do?” and then do it!

Please don’t simply read these Christian dating tips and then not apply them to your dating situations. Dating is a wonderful experience and should be enjoyed by both people in the relationship. If you came searching for these dating tips then you have a desire to honor your date and God with the choices you will make while dating.

We pray these dating tips will bless your life and your future relationships.

Happy Dating!

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” Philippians 4:8 (NIV)

Which Christian dating tips have made a positive difference in your life?

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