5 Reasons Why Our Sisters Should Add More Value to Themselves Before Marriage

Many feminists only speak unnecessary English that does not translate to our day to day reality as regards marital challenges and wholly avoid to preach value addition into women.

It is worthy to note that I am not married but I understand the intricacies of our modern day marriage challenges.

A typical African woman is yet to drift from the ideology of house chores, child bearing and being a domestic assistant. She still believes having a paid job or flourishing business makes her a superwoman or an Alpha breed.

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I thereby find it pertinent to highlight why our sisters should really equip themselves for a better marital experience.

There are so many reasons why but I’ll list five for you to think about.

1. Unforeseen circumstances: This includes job loss, death, permanent disability, and any other sudden occurrence that could stop the productivity of the man.
2. Standing a Broken Home: This includes divorce, unstable marriage and so much more. You’ve probably seen many strong women become fathers to their kids because something unexplainable kicked their Dads out of their lives. If you really have a strong financial involvement, you would carry on.
3. Positioning: This implies who your man takes you for. Men must be men, except for few men. Many others will completely take advantage of you because they provide for you 100%. They cheat on you and abuse you because you cannot go back to your father’s house. And you know why, zero value.
4. Your Original Family: this includes your Mom, Dad and Siblings. All things being equal, having value add life to the people you left to the man’s house, your man has his own folks and would always have one or two contributions to make to yours. If you do not add financial value to yourself or have the potential to do so, you’ll stagger no matter how much your man puts on the table week in week out.
5. Seizing Opportunities: If you’re honest to womanhood, you’ll know there’re more tendencies for a breakthrough from women. If you have a vitae, even if it’s cobwebbed and dusty, an opportunity could come your way and it will work for you. If you’re doing a job that doesn’t require a certificate and you’re good at what you do, just don’t underestimate the efficacy of referencing and the word of God to pick his people up from dustbins to palaces. Have you asked yourself, “Must all ladies and guys marry?”  What if you don’t get lucky?

If you’re to marry that kind of man you’re molding in your head. You’ll need to more value to yourself at least to have a happy marriage and not become a maid in your own home.